一名來自上海的女客人，怒氣沖沖地闖進我的辦公室，要我說出好男人（老公）的定義。我回應說：「一個好老公的人選，應與你年齡相若，單身，有兩至三個大學文憑，有七位數的年薪，人品要好，有正確的價值觀，還有他是認真尋找伴侶。」

　　聽罷後，她怒氣未消：「這些都是你介紹給我的男人，根據我的標準，他們全是垃圾！」「我想要的是一個白種單身男人，身家最少有一億美元，你有這樣條件的男人可介紹給我嗎？要是沒有的話，你就是大話王，因為你並不知道甚麼才算是好男人！」

　　於是我平靜地告訴她真相：

　　我們與七個不同國家的婚姻介紹所合作，我們有她想要的老公人選：有一個常與比爾•蓋茨打高爾夫球；另一個常與Richard Branson（維京集團Virgin Group創辦人）玩橋牌，這些人選非富則貴，但相睇並不是你想要誰就有誰，還要看對方想不想要你。很遺憾地，這些有錢人並不會看上你，因為你沒有他們想要的東西。

　　究竟超級富豪想要找甚麼樣的女人當老婆呢？

1.完美迷人的外表

　　他們想要的女人當然要有非常漂亮的外表，迷人且性感，並有完美無瑕的衣著品味。如果你有漂亮的臉蛋兒但沒個性的話，那並不算是迷人。骨瘦如柴的女人也不好，會令男人失去興致。他們想要找具獨特品味的女性，但挽著一個Chanel袋並不代表你很有品味。

2.運動十項全能

　　超級富豪很享受在春天打高爾夫球，在炎夏駕船出海，秋至時騎馬，寒冬時滑雪。他們想找一個駕得了帆船，騎得了白馬，又能和他在阿爾卑斯山滑雪，在高爾夫球場一較高下的女子。你能做到以上事情嗎？

3.文化品味獨到

　　很多有錢人對藝術、美酒、地毯、音樂、歌劇很有研究。你可以說出Matisse（法國野獸派畫家）和Chagall（俄國超現實主義畫家）畫風的差別嗎？你能一眼便認出印度巴羅達的明珠地毯嗎？你可說出亞爾薩斯和隆河谷地出產甚麼美酒嗎……若不，你如何和這些超級富豪在晚膳時保持話題？

4.上知天文，下知地理

　　除了北京和上海之外，你還到過那些地方旅遊？到異國旅遊時，你能否說出以弗所古城和馬丘比丘城的分別？究竟是馬賽人，還是阿善提人善戰？紐約或馬賽那裏可找到最好的海鮮？在香港那裏可吃到最好的全麥麵包？

　　面對現實吧！因為你和這些超級富豪根本生活在不同的世界，可以說是「大欖都扯唔埋」。作為AWA教育和獎學金計劃的主席，我經常鼓勵學生要追求夢想，但你已到了生命的另一階段，應該停止享樂，停止需求，腳踏實地，開始努力。

　　今天我所給予的意見遠超過你所付出的費用，希望你可明白箇中道理並在生活上實踐。當你怒氣全消時，和你的媒人聊聊，讓她/他幫你找到最適合你的人。

 （按：中文內容乃翻譯及撮寫版本）

Bamboo Door To Bamboo Door

　　A disgruntled lady client from Shanghai barged into my office, “Define a good male candidate!” Whereupon I replied:

　　“ An age appropriate man with 2-3 university degrees, a 7 digit annual income, good personality, healthy core values, legally single, seriously looking for a wife is a good candidate”. 

　　She was irate.  “These are the men you’ve been sending me, & according to my standards, they are garbage!!!” She said, “I want a Caucasian, minimum net worth US$ 100 million, do you have any???  If not, you are a liar & a cheat, cos you don’t even know what quality men are!!!”

　　Whereupon I told her calmly:

The Truth

　　Well, we work with matchmakers in 7 different countries, so yes we have.  We have a friend who plays golf with Bill Gates, another who plays bridge with Richard Branson…wealthy enough for you?  But matching is not just about whom you want; it is whom you want who also wants you! Regrettably, none of them would want you cos you really don’t have very much to offer.  Here are a few examples of the criteria seriously wealthy men would look for in a woman:

1.Appearance

　　They want a woman who is devastatingly beautiful, stunning and sexy. ..and impeccably dressed of course. You have a pretty face, but very little personality.  You are nowhere near stunning.  In fact, too scrawny to be erotic.  Nor have you got the taste to cultivate the sophisticated sense of style they are looking for.  A Chanel handbag is not going to do it.

2.Sports

　　Seriously wealthy men enjoy sailing in summer, riding in autumn, skiing in winter, golfing in spring…preferably with a woman who can sail like a champion, command superb horsemanship, race him down the Alps, & challenge him on the golf course…Can you do any of that???

3.Culture

　　Many wealthy Caucasians are interested in art, wine, carpet, music, opera…Can you tell the difference between a Matisse and a Chagall? Identify the Pearl Carpet of Baroda when you see it?  What good wines come from Alsace or Rhone? Orfeo is Monteverdi's first attempt at Italian opera, “Orpheus” is sung by a castrato, why is this important? Can you continue this conversation over dinner?

4.Travels

　　Where have you been besides Beijing and Shanghai? Regarding exotic travels, can you compare the history between Ephesus and Machu Picchu? Who are the better warriors, the Maasai or the Ashanti? Where would you find the best seafood in New York? Marseille? Hey, where is the best bakery to buy pumpernickel in Hong Kong?

　　Let’s face it, you are just not in the same league. Not even close.

　　As the Chairperson of AWA’s Education & Scholarship Program, I’ve always encouraged my students to “hitch the wagon to a star”, but you are getting a bit too old to be just hitching. You have reached a point in your life where you have to come down from cloud 9, stay rooted, stop demanding, and start earning.

　　The advice I have given you today is worth more than the money you have paid us, I hope you will chew on it and use it wisely.  When you have stopped sulking and whining, contact your Consultant and let her help you identify what is really good and right for you. Good day.